Badgers smelling roses

By Tim Metzler

Online News Editor

On Dec. 1, the Wisconsin badgers earned their third consecutive trip to the Rose Bowl in Pasadena, Calif., by annihilating the Nebraska Cornhuskers 70-31.  The real issue, though, is not on whether or not the Badgers will be up for taking on their next opponent, the No. 8 ranked Stanford Cardinal, but rather on whether the Badgers even deserve to be in the Rose Bowl.

Officially, the Badgers are the third place team in their division, behind the undefeated Ohio State Buckeyes and the recently scandalized Penn State Nittany Lions.  However, Ohio State is suspended from bowl games this year.  The suspension came last year after five Ohio State players were found to have been trading Ohio State gear and memorabilia for cash and discounted tattoos between 2008 and 2010.

Like the Buckeyes, the Nittany Lions are also suspended from bowl games, but their suspension goes through the 2016 season.  The reason for this incredible suspension is for the alleged cover up of the Jerry Sandusky child sex scandal.

As a result of both of these teams being suspended from bowl games, Wisconsin, unranked at the time, was able to step into the conference championship matchup against No. 14 ranked Nebraska.  As was already mentioned, the Badgers won in a blowout.

So, through what has been a magnificently odd turn of events, the Badgers will get another shot at claiming the Rose Bowl title.  The same title that has eluded them for the last two years.

In 2011, the Badgers lost to the TCU Horned Frogs in a close, defense-headed game: 21-19.

In 2012, a second straight Rose Bowl loss came at the hands of the Oregon Ducks.  Even if you don’t remember the game, the history books do.  The Badgers and the Ducks have a record combined score for the Rose Bowl: 83 total points.

In 2013, the Badgers will go up against the Stanford Cardinal.  The last time Stanford played against the Badgers in a bowl game was in 2000, when Ron Dayne led the Badgers to a 17-9 victory.  Of course, that was also the last time the Badgers won the Rose Bowl.

For those who don’t know, the Rose Bowl is one of the annual American college football games that are played on Jan. 1.  It is the oldest annual college football bowl game, and many consider it the most prestigious bowl game of all.  For Wisconsin, this will be their ninth trip to the Rose Bowl.

The upcoming game is sure to be exciting, with the now ranked (No. 23) Badgers facing the No. 8 Stanford Cardinal.  For Wisconsin fans everywhere, hope lies in the talents of Montee Ball, who, this year, broke the career rushing touchdown record for division one college athletes.  The previous NCAA record had been held by Travis Prentice, who played for the Miami University (in Oxford, Ohio) RedHawks and who had scored 78 total touchdowns.

For Wisconsin, opportunity knocks for a third time.  Hopefully, the third time is a charm.

Christmas concerts are not photography studios

By Molly Grosskreutz

A&E Editor

For many, the holiday season is a time of merriment and cheer. At least it should be. Everywhere you look, there are countless performances carrying out the rituals of the season. Store displays, choir concerts, Rotary Lights…

My 16-year-old brother and I recently took part in such a ritual. We attended the Manheim Steamroller concert held at the La Crosse Center two weeks ago. I was so excited to spend some quality time with my brother, ushering in the sounds of Christmas and getting pumped for our upcoming winter break.

The performance was spectacular. The lighting effects, the impressive versatility of the musicians…but there was one aspect of the night that significantly impacted my entire experience: the annoying, middle-aged lady who wouldn’t put her digital camera down.

Picture this: a pitch-black theatre space, with colorful lights dancing behind the performers, in time with the music. Now, add an aggravating orb of white light directly in your line of vision. No matter how hard you try to look away, or concentrate on the sounds, that little light keeps shining. Better yet, it flashes every few moments, distracting your attention from the stage.

That was my concert experience.

Which brings up my point: since when do we as a society feel the need to document every little thing that happens to us? Why are we so inclined to step out of the moment, affecting the moments of others?

Giving up on the concert, I watched the woman in front of me in amazement. What in the world is she taking all these pictures of, I asked myself? After each flash, I scrutinized each after image that showed up on her LED screen…only to discover that all her pictures were exactly the same.

I am not trying to say the woman shouldn’t have taken any pictures, but I am saying she should have limited herself to five or fewer. Dozens of flashes later, the performers have moved merely pixels from their previous poses.

What resulted from her obsession to record everything almost real-time made it miserable for me and everyone around her.

“How does this apply to me?” readers may be wondering? Our generation is equally as obsessed with documenting every little thing that happens. As you participate in performances of your own this holiday season, I invite you to stay mindful of others, and remember to put your cameras down and enjoy the show.

Viterbo meal plan needs some work

By Jessica Schurmann

Lumen Assistant Editor

Have you ever done the math to see what you are actually paying for you cafeteria meals? Did you know that some students wind up paying up to $17.26 a pop just to enjoy our cafeteria’s finest?

I sat down and calculated out the total cost per week and per meal for the four possible meal plans at Viterbo (not counting the V-Hawk bucks). For the 19 meals/week plan, the cost is pretty reasonable at $5.66 a meal. Even the 14 meals/week plan is acceptable at $7.77 a meal. However, the cost becomes pricier when students buy plans that offer fewer meals per week.

For the lowest meal plan, the 80 Flex, students will pay $17.26 per meal, which includes the four guest passes they receive. If you don’t believe me, do the math: $1,450 (not counting the $100 V-Hawk bucks) divided by 84 meals.

Currently, I am paying $9.60 a meal with my 10-a-week plan. I live in one of the on-campus apartments; therefore I have the convenience of cooking for myself most of the time. However, we are forced to adopt a meal plan and thus, I chose the 10. I refuse to pay $18 a meal even if I do not use all of my 10 meals a week.

During a typical week, I eat about 6-8 meals in either the Caf or Crossroads. I lose money by not having the opportunity to eat all of my meals during the designated hours.

One of the other problems that I have is with the guest policy for meal plans. When I have a visitor at Viterbo and we would like to eat in the Caf, I have to either use my V-Hawk bucks or pay out of pocket for the second meal. What does it matter if I am paying for my 10 meals already, $9.60 each, don’t forget? Shouldn’t I be able to spend MY money how I want? Why should I pay for a meal twice, when I don’t even use all of my 10 as it is?

I feel cheated out of my money for the meal plans. If we want to have two lunches one day, why can’t we? We’re paying for them by checking the meals off our weekly allowance. If we want to cover the meal of a visitor, why can’t we? We shouldn’t have to pay out of pocket when we have a paid balance ready and waiting.

Viterbo should reconsider the requirement for on-campus residents to have meal plans when the majority of its housing consists of apartment buildings, and it should also allow those who do have a meal plan to use their meals (since they are all paid for) however they like.

Suicide rate decreases during the holidays

By Janelle Mathews

Lumen Editor-in-Chief

In the classic holiday movie “It’s a Wonderful Life,” George Bailey contemplates suicide on Christmas Eve.  Many media reports over the past decade claim that the suicide rate goes up during the holiday season, but this is just not true.  According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention’s National Center for Health Statistics, “the suicide rate is, in fact, the lowest in December” with the rate peaking in “the spring and fall months.”

The Annenberg Public Policy Center has been tracking media reports in relation to suicide during the holiday months, and the center has found that there is no consistency with the media and what they publish on holiday suicide.  In 2006, “91 percent of media stories debunked the myth” of holiday suicide, but “in the 2007 holiday season, the myth was back in half the stories,” explained Kim Painter in USA TODAY.

It is the stress of the holiday season that perpetuates the myth of a rising suicide rate, said Paula Clayton, medical director of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention in USA TODAY.

Kathleen Hall Jamieson, director of the Annenberg Public Policy Center, asserts, “the press has an important role to play in debunking the holiday-suicide myth” in USA TODAY.

Suicide is a problem with more than 36,000 people committing suicide each year, according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention.

Suicide is ranked as the 11th leading cause of death among adults and ranks as the third leading cause of death in adolescents according to Center for Disease Control and Prevention.  People dealing with a suicidal crisis can contact the national suicide prevention lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK.

Should we cancel our Christmas parties and prepare for the Mayan doomsday prophecy?

By Jordan Weiker

Campus Life Assistant Editor

Dec. 21 is approaching, and some people have suggested that this year we’ll be receiving an early Christmas present: a catastrophic end to life as we know it.

Doomsday prophecies have existed for centuries. The Dec. 21 prophecy is perhaps the most famous in recent times because it was predicted by the Mayans, a Mesoamerican civilization that once flourished in the modern-day Yucatan peninsula.

The Mayans excelled at mathematics and calendar-making, according to history.com. The best known of these Mayan-made calendars is the long-count calendar, which is also the source for the Dec. 21 apocalyptic prediction.

“The calendar is based on a set of calculations that counted the number of years since a mythical creation date of Aug. 11, 3114 B.C.,” according to Agence France-Presse News. “The creation date is written as 13.0.0.0.0 on the long-count calendar. Nov. 13, 2720 B.C., is written as 1.0.0.0.0, while Feb. 16, 2325 B.C., is written as 2.0.0.0.0. Dec. 21, 2012, is written once again as 13.0.0.0.0.”

Because the long-count calendar stops at 13.0.0.0.0., the 2012 doomsday argument has surfaced as a result.

Some of the doomsday theories for Earth’s end on this day include a killer solar flare, a comet heading for Earth (possibly unleashing a monster ocean wave) and a geomagnetic pole reversal, according to Discovery News.

The question, though, is whether or not the 2012 phenomenon is just another nonsensical doomsday theory.

“It is true that the Mayans were knowledgeable about celestial movements and calculations, which surprised the Spanish conquistadores, but Mayan narratives on world destruction are pedagogical mythologies, as many other ancient cultures and civilizations had,” said Jesús Jambrina, coordinator of the Latin American Studies program at Viterbo.

“The scientific community agrees on no existing evidence whatsoever on any cataclysmic event on that date,” Jambrina told Lumen.

“Just as the calendar you have on your kitchen wall does not cease to exist after Dec. 31, the Maya calendar does not cease to exist on Dec. 21, 2012,” according to NASA.gov. “This date is the end of the Maya long-count period, but then—just as your calendar begins again on Jan. 1—another long-count period begins for the Maya calendar.”

Scientists from NASA also agreed, “There are no credible predictions for worrisome astronomical events in 2012. Solar activity has a regular cycle, with peaks approximately every 11 years. Near these activity peaks, solar flares can cause some interruption of satellite communications, although engineers are learning how to build electronics that are protected against most solar storms. But there is no special risk associated with 2012.”

“The next solar maximum will occur in the 2012-2014 time frame and is predicted to be an average solar cycle, no different than previous cycles throughout history. The Earth’s magnetic field, which deflects charged particles from the sun, does reverse polarity on time scales of about 400,000 years, but there is no evidence that a reversal, which takes thousands of years to occur, will begin in 2012.”

“I don’t think we should worry about anything else that day other than getting close to a good fire at home to fight winter outside,” concluded Jambrina.

And if scientists are wrong, at least students won’t have to worry about paying back their student loans.

New task force on campus looks to explore and expand diversity

By Joycelyn Fish

Campus Life Editor

Walking around the Viterbo campus, diversity may not be the first thing someone thinks about or notices. However, the Diversity Task Force’s main goal is to explore and expand diversity across campus.

“We have a mission to prepare our students to interface more successfully with the diverse society,” Deb Daehn Zellmer , chair of the Diversity Task Force and chair of the sociology, social work, and criminal justice departments, said. “We are trying to be proactive rather than reactive.”

Next semester, the group will be focusing on learning about individuals within diverse populations on campus.

“We are going to be inviting students who represent diverse populations to meet with and share with us their experiences on campus so that we can have a better understanding of what our strengths and our challenges are and what we need to do to make this a more welcoming campus,” Daehn Zellmer explained.

The Diversity Task Force plans on setting up sessions for focused conversations with African-American, Hispanic, Asian and international students. The task force also hopes to meet with members of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgendered and queer community in a safe, open environment recognizing confidentiality and privacy issues. Any students interested in being part of a panel are welcome to send an email to ddzellmer@viterbo.edu.

“Primarily we’re looking at ways to engage and educate faculty and students to support and promote diversity,” Daehn Zellmer said.

Established during the 2012 spring semester, the organization was called under the direction of Barb Gayle, academic vice president. Composed of three students and 12 faculty and staff members, the group formed as a result of increased diversity on campus and wanting to continually increase diversity.

Although the Diversity Task Force has only been on campus for a couple of semesters, it has already set forth goals and developed a clear purpose.

The group has also created a definition for diversity according to Daehn Zellmer. “At Viterbo University, diversity is best embodied through the Franciscan values of hospitality and respect for human dignity. Therefore we see diversity as including but not limited to age, culture, ethnicity, gender, learning style, mental health, physical abilities, race, religious beliefs, sexual orientation, and socioeconomic status.”

Three subcommittees focus on different aspects of developing openness and understanding of diversity on campus. The faculty and staff training committee focus on preparing all members on campus, especially those teaching the diversity seminars. Collecting raw numbers of existing data to get a base line to look back at in the future is the task of the data collection committee. In addition, the campus initiative collaboration committee is working towards connecting with other organizations across campus who are focusing on diversity.

“The intent is really to focus on creating a learning and working environment that would be respectful and supportive of different groups,” Daehn Zellmer explained.

V-Hawks make it ‘a season to remember’

By Danielle Templin

Sports Editor

On Nov. 14, head coach Ryan Delong made a statement as he addressed a pep rally held in honor of the women’s volleyball and soccer teams. At the end of his speech, he concluded the Viterbo University volleyball team would have “a season to remember,” and did they ever.

The lady V-Hawks’ run at a national title ended in the round of the Elite-8 when they were defeated by the third seed Columbia College, 3-1. The Elite-8 appearance is the second ever in school history, as the 1999 V-Hawk men’s basketball team also advanced to the same level in the NAIA division II National Tournament.

The loss marked the final game for five seniors who truly shaped the history of V-Hawk volleyball for years to come. Seniors Katie Flock, Jordan Blaken, Hannah Ripp, Stacie Hoffman and Kassie McGettigan led the team all season for the V-Hawks.

In the loss to Columbia College, the V-Hawks were led by the Midwest Collegiate Conference Player of the Year, Sophomore outside hitter Alicia Olson, who had 16 kills for the V-Hawks. Senior Katie Flock contributed 12 kills for the V-Hawk offense while Stacie Hoffman ended the game with 35 assists.

Defensively, the V-Hawks were led by MCC Libero of the Year Jordan Blaken, who had 25 digs for the match.

Before the loss to Columbia in the first match of the single elimination round, Viterbo swept Georgetown College 3-0 (25-21, 25-16, 25-22).

In the match, Blaken continued to lead the V-Hawk defense, as she finished with 23 digs, giving her the school’s all time digs record. Along with Blaken, senior setter Stacie Hoffman produced a game-high 30 assists and 13 digs.

On the last day of pool play, the lady V-Hawks finished with a come-from-behind 3-2 victory over No. 20 Cal State San Marcos, sweeping their pool.

Once again, the tandem of outside hitters Alicia Olson and Katie Flock led the V-Hawks. Together the two combined for 35 of the 56 V-Hawk kills. Seniors Hannah Ripp and Kassie McGettigan battled at the net as they each had a solo block and assisted on 18.

Libero Jordan Blaken continued to lead the defense, as she had 26 digs. Flock also contributed on defense as she finished with a double-double for the match, adding 10 digs for the V-Hawks.

The second game of pool play featured another lady V-Hawk victory against an additional top 10 team, No. 6 The Master’s College. The 3-1 win gave Viterbo their highest win against a ranked opponent in school history.

Offensively, Katie Flock, who contributed 19 kills and 20 digs for the match, led the V-Hawks. With the 20 digs, Flock became the third player in school history to have 1,000 kills and 1,000 digs in a career.

Setter Stacie Hoffman had 45 assists for the match, while Blaken led the defense with 24 digs.

In their first match of pool play, the V-Hawks knocked off No. 7 Indiana Wesleyan University, 3-1. The upset win for the lady V-Hawks was led by Olson who had a match high 22 kills, while Flock added 14 kills and 22 digs.

Hoffman continued to quarterback the V-Hawk offense as she produced a game high 50 assists, breaking the single season assists record. Along with breaking the single season record, Hoffman also broke the school’s all time assists record.

In the opening round of the 2012 NAIA National Tournament, the Viterbo volleyball team knocked off Davenport University on Nov. 17, allowing them to advance to the pool play round in Sioux City, Iowa.

The V-Hawks swept the Panthers in three straight sets in the Varsity Athletic Complex.

Offensively, Alicia Olson who had 15 kills, led the V-Hawks. Hoffman broke the all-time school record for career assists with 33 for the match.

Defensively, the V-Hawks were led by Jordan Blaken, who led the team with 19 out of the team’s 67 digs, while producing no receiving errors.

Without a doubt, the Viterbo volleyball team had “a season to remember,” setting various school records as well as individual records. On their tournament run, they knocked off three nationally ranked teams, including two in the top 10 on their way to their first ever Elite-8 appearance.

Led all season long by a strong senior class, the V-Hawks have imprinted their name in Viterbo University athletic history.

Women’s sports dominate fall season

By Danielle Templin

Sports Editor

The Viterbo athletics’ fall season has been dominated by women’s sports. Women’s soccer and volleyball yielded regular season conference championships, along with top seeds in their conference tournaments.

Women’s Soccer

The top-seeded, women’s soccer team won the Midwest Collegiate Conference tournament championship on Nov. 7 and made history when they qualified for the NAIA National Tournament after defeating third seed Grand View University 3-1. The automatic bid is Viterbo’s first in school history for the women’s soccer program.

In the win, freshman Molly Machometa added to her outstanding season, scoring a goal in the first five minutes of the game and recording an assist in the 69th minute.

The goal was the 31st of the season for Machometa, which set a single season record and broke the previous record of 30, set in the 2004 season by Jen Schlesinger. The goal and assist gave Machometa 71 points for the season (31 goals, 9 assists), which also exceeded a record set by Schlesinger in 2004. Currently, Machometa ranks second in the country (NAIA) in both goals and points scored.

Junior Steph Wisen also put her name in the record books in the team’s championship win. Wisen recorded two assists for the game, and registered her 16th assist of the season, setting a single season record. With the assists, Wisen now ranks number one on the university’s all-time assist record with 28 career assists. Along with leading in assists, Wisen is currently tied for third on Viterbo’s all-time goals scored list, with 43, and total points of 114.

Along with Machometa’s and Wisen’s goals, senior Nikki Reinhart scored on an assist from Wisen in the 64th minute. The goal was Reinhart’s second of the season.

Grand View’s only goal was scored on set play, when they took advantage of a Viterbo foul. Kayla Pitman scored her 11th goal of the season on an assist from Jordyn Thompson.

The MCC defensive player of the week, goalie MaKenzie Guth played all 90 minutes for the V-Hawks, stopping four of the five shots she faced.

For the match, Viterbo finished with a 12-7 advantage in shots, but Grand View had a 4-0 advantage in corner kicks. Freshman Courtney Morgan led the V-Hawks in shots with four, including two on goal, while Wisen finished with three.

With the win, the V-Hawks improve to 15-2-1 overall and will wait for the national tournament bracket to be announced. The lady V-Hawks will be one of 32 teams to play at the national tournament, which starts Nov 17.

Volleyball

Saturday, Nov. 10, the V-Hawk women defeated top-seeded Grand View University 3-1.  With the win, the team captured their first conference tournament title in school history and received an automatic bid to the national tournament on Saturday, Nov. 17 in Sioux City, Iowa.  The V-Hawks found out their opening round opponent on Monday, Nov. 12.

The V-Hawk volleyball team advanced to their conference tournament championship game where they beat Grand View after a 3-0 sweep over St. Ambrose University in R.W. Beggs Gymnasium on Nov. 7.

Offensively the team finished with a .522 hitting percentage for the match, but also recorded 15 hitting errors. Defensively the V-Hawks finished with 5 blocks and 46 digs for the match.

Sophomore Alicia Olson led the V-Hawks in kills with 18, while senior outside hitter, Katie Flock, provided 15 kills for match. Senior setter Stacy Hoffman led the team with 39 assists and 9 kills, while libero Jordan Blaken led the defense with 17 digs.

With the win Viterbo is in their third MCC Championship game within the last four years. Last season the V-Hawks lost to Grand View, 3-1 in last season’s championship game.

‘Wreck-It Ralph’: Maybe video games can teach life lessons

By Molly Grosskreutz

A&E Editor

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Valerie Groebner

A&E Assistant Editor

Transported into the unknown and crafty utopia of video games, “Wreck-It Ralph” (directed by Rich Moore) and its vibrant animation tells the story of the quirky ups and downs of video game characters.  Ralph (the voice of John C. Reilly) plays the destructive and disliked bad guy in his home-game “Fix-It Felix” (Jack McBrayer). But once Ralph realizes that he is tired of the villainous lifestyle, he eagerly sets out to prove himself to those who have no faith in him.

Ralph begins his journey and encounters characters of vastly different-themed video games, but things take a major turn when he stumbles into “Sugar Rush” and meets little mischievous and outcast Vanellope von Schweetz (Sarah Silverman).

Through each other’s company, Ralph and Vanellope realize they have much in common, and Ralph is heartbroken to learn some unexpected facts about Vanellope and her candy-coated world, giving him the opportunity to show his inner hero.

VG: The concept of seeing the world of a video game from the characters’ end was really intriguing, and something I hadn’t ever considered before. The way they made the video gaming world a reality was so unique and eye opening.

MG: I agree 100 percent. The concept of this movie is brilliant, and employs a vast treasure trove of locales and characters that had, up to this point, remained untapped. It was really neat to see iconic video game characters such as Pac-Man and Bowser transplant themselves from arcade screen to movie screen.

VG: I was pleased to see that this film incorporated an aspect of “disabled” individuals (*Spoiler*: Vanellope suffers from
“pixel-exia”). Most children-oriented movies don’t really embrace or demonstrate common imperfections, let alone attempt to send across a positive message, but this movie does both. However, I feel as though this storyline has been used many times throughout previous children-oriented films, and I would have liked for a new or different teaching to come of it.

MG: There’s a lot of talk that “Ralph” is starting a new chapter for Disney. I think that’s true in a lot of ways. Not only is the Disney team redefining animation, they are also making their movies more dynamic than they used to be, shirking away from simple storylines and embracing tough issues.

VG: Although there are many popular video games out there, I was relieved that very few characters from the real world made an appearance in this flick. Should animations from Call of Duty, Super Mario Bros., Donkey Kong, etc. have shown up, the movie would have had zero originality and spunk.

MG: I admire what the writers did with this storyline. They didn’t use pre-existing games and characters as crutches. Instead, they used those successful examples as archetypes, drawing elements from them but then constructing entirely different worlds.

VG: Fix-It Felix was my personal favorite little character. I enjoyed how his persona matched up perfectly with McBrayer’s other personality, Kenneth Parcell in 30 Rock. Reilly pleasantly called my attention with his “softy” side; I had only ever seen him in suggestive, politically incorrect, inappropriate-for-children essences, but he cleans up nicely.

MG: I thought Reilly was perfectly suited for his role as the well-intentioned ex-villain, but for me, Jane Lynch’s and Sarah Silverman’s voices really stole the show. Lynch shines as Calhoun, a bitter and world-weary alpha female. Silverman’s Vanellope is exactly the opposite: a bubbly, refreshing optimist. I found both characters remarkably endearing.

Final Verdict

VG: Thumbs up.

MG: Thumbs up.

Elizabeth Marquardt: The continually rising divorce rates in the United States

By Jordan Weiker

Campus Life Assistant Editor

“Divorce now happens to one million children every year in the U.S.,” said Elizabeth Marquardt as she presented “Is There Any Such Thing as a ‘Good’ Divorce?” in the Fine Arts Center Main Theatre on Thursday, Nov. 8. The event was co-sponsored by the Office of Marriage and Family Life Diocese of La Crosse.

Marquardt is the director of the Center for Marriage and Families at the Institute for American Values and the editor of FamilyScholars.org (where she also blogs).

Marquardt is also the author of “Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce.” The book was based on a study of grown children of divorce, and was the foundation for her Nov. 8 presentation.

She started her presentation with the fact that divorce rates continue to climb in the U.S.

“The divorce rates really began rising in the 1960s, and by the 1980s, one in two first marriages were failing,” said Marquardt. “My interest, though, has been how divorce affects the children of divorced parents.”

Marquardt’s research was the first conducted study of adult divorced parent children.

What Marquardt found in her research was that children of divorced parents were more likely to get divorces themselves.

They also had more of a struggle identifying themselves as they grew older, she said.

“Two-thirds of children from divorced parents said that after their parents divorced, their parents seemed to have different personalities,” said Marquardt. “This created a struggle in the developing of their own personalities and posed hardships in how they were to grieve the loss of a divorced parent.”

How will the former spouse of the deceased divorced parent react to the death, and how does this reaction affect how the child of the divorcees reacts to death?

“It poses deeper struggles in the already difficult process of accepting dying,” Marquardt said.

Marquardt argued that by being married, it’s the parents’ responsibilities to handle their conflicts.

“If the parents divorce, and they haven’t solved their conflict, the conflict becomes the child’s job to sort through,” Marquardt explained.

While Marquardt concluded that there may be times where divorce is “good” (domestic violence), she said that too often, married couples give up without trying to reconcile. Couples need to understand how to resolve problems within marriage.

She gave three common reasons why couples may be justifying a divorce. These reasons included: a lack of sex; unhappiness with their own lives; and the mentality that their children would still have two loving parents.

Marquardt argued that most problems like these are solvable though.

“What it really comes down to is kids care about their mother and father being there to support them.”

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